It finally happened. After almost a year of dek hockey, Jordan scored his first goal. He had a few scoring opportunities in the game, and with just a few seconds left in regulation, he shot from the left side and was rewarded for his hard work with a game winning goal!
I was so proud of him. He was stoked and immediately ran to me. I wanted to hug him but I told him to go high five his teammates. His friend Jacob was running behind him toward me with his hand out, looking for a high five. There was more time for hugs when he came off the dek.
This season I have seen an unreal amount of maturity come to him in the game. He is focusing more and using the skills he learns in practice. He is communicating with his teammates. He is joining rushes when he plays wing and protecting the goal and hanging back at the blue line (well, yellow on this dek) when he is on defense. His passing is getting better and more accurate. The basic tennents of the game are starting to come together for him and it is wondeful to watch him develop.
There were other lessons to learn though on Saturday. Prior to getting his goal, he had a moment that I never want to see again. The other team scored and his threw his stick and a glove. Not to be “that parent” but the coach didn’t say anything and I called him over to me. He knew. He trudged and I told him sternly to hustle.
The message here was you do not ever under any circumstances throw your equipment. I told him it is okay if the other team scores. It isn’t a big deal but he is to never throw his equipment and that he needed to apologize to his coach and his team.
One thing I will not tolerate from my child is unsportsmanlike conduct. After the game, I reinforced this. First I talked about all of the things he did well and congratulated him on his goal and told him how all of his hard work was paying off and how proud of him I was. But after the happy talk, I explained to him about his actions and why they were wrong.
It is disrespectful to his coach, his teammates, and the other team to act like that. You won’t win every game, but that is never an excuse to throw a tantrum. The goal happened, so you try again and this time he did try again and he earned his first goal ever. Also, I am paying for your equipment, you will respect your belongings. You don’t throw toys at home, well you don’t throw a hockey stick or a baseball glove either.
He needs to learn to be a good winner and a good loser.
I remember this guy I had a huge crush on on middle school or high school. *Sigh* He was beautiful.
The crush didn’t last long. The kid was a raging lunatic. Wanna know how big of a turn off being a sore loser is? This kid could put on a clinic in what it looks like being the biggest asshole to your teammates and your parents because your team lost. And I never once saw his parents correct him. That shit didn’t fly in my house. No way.
The other thing I taught him and will continue to reinforce is that when he or his teammates score a goal to make sure he is engaging his team. High five them. Tell them good job, because even if he is the one who puts the puck in the net, his team helped and it is just as much their victory as his. It’s a team sport.
I am also reinforcing that you do not brag and rub in your accomplishments. There are plenty of other kids out there still looking for their first goal and it is his job as their teammate to help them get it. I want him to be excited and proud of himself. He should be proud of himself. He is busting his butt to be good at something that he loves. You can see on his face and hear in his voice how in love with playing the sport he is. But he also needs to learn to be humble.
Saturday was an amazing day for Jordan and for me to be able to watch him reach a milestone that he has wanted so very badly for a long time. But there are always lessons to be learned aside from how to play. He needs to learn how to have a positive attitude and a team spirit.
I can’t wait to see what else he does this season! Congratulations, baby! You did it!